When candidates get too comfortable they can begin to do or say things in order ‘to be accepted’. Be mindful of this to avoid the following happening to you!
Bad-mouthing another employer
Bashing your current or former employer is a huge mistake. Even if the Hiring Manager is starting to egg it on you still need to stand your ground. It is important for you to remember that they do not really know you all that well yet. They could read you as a complainer, gossiper, or negative person all together if they see you bad-mouthing another employer.
You need to fight off the urge and find a better way to present the facts. Your last company may well have treated employees badly or made them work too many hours without recognition. However, best to keep this to yourself and say that although they did all they could your career progression will be best served by moving on. Remember the Hiring Manager is thinking that there are two sides to every story. They are asking this question: If I were to hire this person, would they bring the same division, negativity and poison into my department? They are looking for employees who up lift the team and speak words of encouragement. They want team members that are easily managed.
This is also especially true if you are working with recruiters. Sure they want the good, bad and ugly, but you want to let them know that you would not discuss this negativity on any future interviews that they might send you on. That will give them a sense of comfort about placing you in front of their clients.
Answering a Question that was not Asked
You always want to let a competent interviewer lead the process. It is easy for some people to start dominating the process or taking control of the interview without even realizing it. I think that this can happen for two reasons:
1. Nerves get the best of us - Sometimes we go into an interview with all of this nervous energy. What we do is channel that energy in the wrong way. We start rambling or start trying to fill in the dead spaces of the conversation with too much side conversation.
If you can learn to harness that energy in a good way then you will begin to benefit from your nerves. Nerves are not a bad thing. Nerves can create energy and excitement and help you from coming across as dull and boring. At the same time, when you let nervousness get the best of you, then you start to do certain things like answering questions that were not asked.
You have to remained focused in an interview and stay with the task at hand.
Do not try to give 7 different answers to 1 basic question.
2. You are a natural leader - Some of us just step and lead a conversation from the start. We may not be all that nervous but we do like to get to know people, converse and fit in. Those are great business qualities to have. However, a more important business quality is understanding your place in the room at any given meeting. Sometimes, you need to step up and lead and other times that could be the damaging thing to do.
In an interview, you are the guest. You were not invited in to interview the other person or the company to find out if it is right for you. That happens later on. Let me say that again:
Do not go to an interview and begin interviewing the other person.
You need to allow them to lead and you answer only the questions that are asked of you. Now, in almost any interview there comes a time when you can ask questions. As long as you ask the right questions, you can get your answers just fine. It is at this time that you can ask if any remaining skills and experience you have and feel could be of relevance maybe of interest to the client.
Lastly, answering a question that was not asked can come across as cocky and self-indulgent. Your goal is not to take every question and squeeze your top 10 life accomplishments in the question whether it was relevant or not.